Perhaps I had spoken too soon. Once I became a mom to twin girls I quickly understood exactly why these moms may have dressed their kids in identical clothing.
There are so many things that you have to keep in mind as a mom of twins that may not be in the front of your mind as a mom to a singleton. For one, you are constantly comparing your multiples, even if you try not to....
Sally is already hopping on one foot and running, and Samantha is still only walking....I wonder if there is something wrong with Samantha...is she delayed? Should I be concerned?
Now multiply this mindset times everything...
- Speech and communication skills: Sally knows 25 words and Sam only knows 15; or, Sam is signing a lot, but Sally will only sign more and milk
- How much they eat: Sam eats everything that is put in front of her, but Sally won't eat anything - I wonder if I need to supplement
- How much they weigh: Sally weighs 2 lbs more than Sam, is that okay?!
- How much they sleep: Sam is a great sleeper, but Sally only sleeps 7 hours a night, should I be concerned??
Okay, so I can work on that....but what about when other people do? Then what?
One day when we were at Whole Foods in the checkout line with the girls when it happened....
"Wow, she is gorgeous! And how cute is that outfit?!" a woman behind us in line says
"Oh, thank you" I say, smiling at her
"Oh, and you are pretty too" she says to our other peanut....(an apparent afterthought)
"We are very blessed with two beautiful little girls" I replied back
And at that moment it hit me.....the girls were going to get enough input from people around them about who was smarter, who was prettier, who was better dressed.....and I didn't want to play into it. Perception is everything in our American culture. I didn't want the girls to think that I was purposely dressing one of them in cuter clothes than the other or was treating one girl differently from the other. From that point forward, I purchased almost exclusively matching outfits for the girls. If complimentary outfits were available I would purchase the complementary options, but otherwise, everything was purchased in identical sets of 2, from tops and pants, dresses and skirts, all the way down to socks and hair bows.
This is what the girls' closet looks like today...essentially 2 of everything!
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The girls will be 3 in October, and they love to pick out what they wear each day. I give them two options. They can both wear the same, or they can each wear one of the different outfits. I would say that about 97% of the time they choose to wear the same exact outfit. Maybe as the girls grow older and start school and start to pick out their own clothes when we go shopping they will choose to wear different clothes, but for now, they are almost always dressed the same....and they like it.
What about you? Do you dress your twins the same? If so, why? Are our reasons similar? I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Until next time -
Megan
One day when we were at Whole Foods in the checkout line with the girls when it happened....
"Wow, she is gorgeous! And how cute is that outfit?!" a woman behind us in line says
"Oh, thank you" I say, smiling at her
"Oh, and you are pretty too" she says to our other peanut....(an apparent afterthought)
"We are very blessed with two beautiful little girls" I replied back
And at that moment it hit me.....the girls were going to get enough input from people around them about who was smarter, who was prettier, who was better dressed.....and I didn't want to play into it. Perception is everything in our American culture. I didn't want the girls to think that I was purposely dressing one of them in cuter clothes than the other or was treating one girl differently from the other. From that point forward, I purchased almost exclusively matching outfits for the girls. If complimentary outfits were available I would purchase the complementary options, but otherwise, everything was purchased in identical sets of 2, from tops and pants, dresses and skirts, all the way down to socks and hair bows.
This is what the girls' closet looks like today...essentially 2 of everything!
.JPG)
The girls will be 3 in October, and they love to pick out what they wear each day. I give them two options. They can both wear the same, or they can each wear one of the different outfits. I would say that about 97% of the time they choose to wear the same exact outfit. Maybe as the girls grow older and start school and start to pick out their own clothes when we go shopping they will choose to wear different clothes, but for now, they are almost always dressed the same....and they like it.
What about you? Do you dress your twins the same? If so, why? Are our reasons similar? I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Until next time -
Megan
