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Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Twin Tuesday: Would you do it over again???

I borrowed this question from Pam's blog, and the more I've thought about it the more I have decided it's a ridiculously loaded question!

You all know our story already; we worked really hard to get our girls here, and we couldn't possibly imagine life without them.

When they were born, to hear each of their individual cries while I was laying on the operating table was nothing short of breathtaking.

To hear them giggle at each other when they are playing together is priceless.

To hear them chatting back and forth in their very own "twin language" is amazing.
To see them play (and get into mischief) together and enjoy each others company makes my heart smile =).

They are so very different, yet somehow the same. I love watching them play and interact with each other, and its nice to know that they will always have each other, sisters, and best friends (and honestly, best enemies at the same time).  They learn something new every day and it is amazing to watch them learn and explore together.

On the flip side, I remember how HARD it was to raise infant twins! The seemingly constant nursing, the sleep deprivation, the fussing (especially when both were fussing at the same time), the poopy diapers (naturally), the laundry. I remember how much energy I used to have before we had twins.  I remember how much more of a social life I had before we had twins.  I remember how much more time Si and I had to spend with each other before we had twins.

SO...If we could choose to have twins over again (as opposed to a singleton, or perhaps all together), would we?

YUP.

In all honesty, I'm a bit sad that my little man isn't going to have a built in best friend (and enemy) like the girls do!

Now don't get me wrong - I am LOVING nursing one baby.  I am loving cuddling one baby.  I am loving caring for one baby. I feel SO bonded to him. Having one baby is significantly easier than having two. In fact, there isn't much for Si to do with Mr. Hudson because honestly, I can easily do it all.  And that makes me sad.  Si was so involved with the girls - we each took a girl - I took Brianna and he took Olivia.  If Bri got up in the night, I was on.  If Livvy got up in the night, he was on.  Livvy didn't enjoy breastfeeding much, so if she needed fed, Si fed her a breast milk bottle while I nursed Bri.  We nearly split everything 50/50.  I loved it.  We had a very distinct appreciation for each other. We shared the load.  And not that we don't appreciate each other now - we've been there, done that - but I almost feel like he's missing out on some of the parenting of little Hudson, simply because there is only one of him.  He has taken over most of the parenting of the girls over the last 7 weeks, and I have taken over everything with Hudson.  It's not a bad thing by any means, it's just different.  =)

And a side note - in case you were curious - I do not think that twins are twice as hard as a singleton. Twins are probably more like 1 &1/2 times the work of one baby.  I mean, you already have to nurse/feed one, so it isn't "twice as hard" to feed two.  Twice as time consuming perhaps (unless you are tandem feeding or double fisting it with bottle feedings), but not twice the work.  Same with laundry, baths, changing diapers....you already are having to do it, so having to do it for two kids isn't twice as hard....in my opinion anyway =).

So back to the question, YES, I definitely think we would do it over again.

Would we want to have twins again right now?  Um, NO.  I think we are good with 3 children under the age of 2 at this point!  But we are so thrilled that we were given the opportunity to parent twins.  Oh! And I almost forgot! I'm excited to welcome one of my bestest friends Lisa to the twins club as well - she is currently 14-ish weeks pregnant with fraternal twins - and I couldn't be more excited for her!!!  I can't wait to snuggle her little peanuts! She is due January 31st. I'm so excited to meet them!

So, now it's your turn to answer the question!
Would YOU do it over again?  Why or why not?
I'm excited to see what your thoughts are!!

Until next time -
Megan

8 comments:

  1. Man, that IS a loaded question! My response is something like: I'm glad my girls are twins and I would never un-twin them. I think they were meant to be together. But I hope I don't have another set of twins in the future. It is just SO hard. The worry worry worry while you're pregnant, the NICU time, the feeding problems, the complete lack of sleep making me forget which baby likes which feeding methods, I could go on... It was worth it but it was HARD. Also, I wouldn't say two babies is twice the work either. I'd say 2 babies is three times the work. Its lessening as they get older though.

    Love seeing your pics of your little man! Maybe in a few years...

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    1. Geez, I totally spaced the NICU time, and I didn't touch on the differences between twin and singleton pregnancies either. Great points.
      Agreed...the work is lessening as they get older. They entertain each other a lot more than they used to, and they are able to do more things independently of Si and I. That said, they are getting sneaky and mischievous and we are having to use our brains much more than we did before! HA!
      Thanks for sharing Stephanie!!!

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  2. I'm with you and Stephanie on this one. I wouldn't change having my girls for the world. They make my heart so full. Having said that, the anxiety of a twin pregnancy is not fun. Would I want to have twins again? I won't rule it out but I worry about keeping sane for 9 months of pregnancy and the financial implications/lifestyle changes required when you have 4 kids in pairs.

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    1. Ooh, very valid point! You have to look at the big picture. I totally ignored the pregnancy portion, but you're absolutely right, the financial implications and lifestyle changes would definitely need to be taken into account too! 4 in daycare is PRICEY! And what about cars - is your car big enough for 4? What about your home?
      Good things to think about!
      Thanks for chiming in Olusola!!!

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  3. I'm perfectly happy with my twins. I think I will always wonder about what I missed out on by not having a singleton. I lost that but I gained so much more.

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    1. True that Samantha! You didn't miss anything. Maybe getting to spend more one on one time with a singleton as compared to twins, but seriously, I wouldn't ever trade it =).
      Thanks for chiming in!

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  4. Oh, yes. I would do it over again. I feel so blessed to have two babies--to watch them grow together. I don't know if I will ever have a third/singleton, but I think that would be pretty, too ;-)

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    1. I'm with you! I feel so so blessed to be where I am right now! I wouldn't change it if I could. =).
      Thanks for chiming in!

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Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me!